5 Gays Who Are Encouraging You To NOT Come Out

Whilst most of the LGBT community will tell you that whilst coming out isn’t going to be the easiest thing you’ll ever do, they will however still tell it’s an important thing that everyone needs to do in order to be able to truly feel proud of who you are. Well that is unless you’re one of these five who would quickly turn you around, walk you straight back into the closet and close the door.

1. Rupert Everett (Gay Actor)

Ah the darling Mr Everett. Rupert is well known for his little grumpy outbursts so we should feel privileged he’s blessed a rather negative one on his own community.

“It’s not that advisable to be honest. It’s not very easy. And, honestly, I would not advise any actor necessarily, if he was really thinking of his career, to come out…The fact is that you could not be, and still cannot be, a 25-year-old homosexual trying to make it in the British film business or the American film business or even the Italian film business.”

‘It just doesn’t work and you’re going to hit a brick wall at some point. You’re going to manage to make it roll for a certain amount of time, but at the first sign of failure, they’ll cut you right off.”

(Via Daily Mail)

2. Todd Holland (Gay Director)

In response to a question at the 2009 Taking It to the Streets: LGBT Directors Get Political panel at Outfest about the competitiveness of Hollywood and whether young actors should be out of not, Holland was very certain of this answer (though he did apologize through GLAAD later on)

I say, Stay in the closet.”

(Via Pink News)

3. John Amaechi (Gay Retired Basketball Player)

Maybe we’re being a little harsh with John Amaechi for this one, but whilst we agree that it’s not a good idea to come out before you’re ready, it is important if the sports world is ever going to change it’s attitude to homosexuality that everyone doesn’t wait out of fear, not lack of confidence of their own sexuality, until they’re retired to come out.

“I get into trouble sometimes with the gay community by saying it is not the job of sports stars in the closet to come out.

“That is not how change happens. For an under-prepared and psychologically stunted individual who plays sports at a high level to come out before they are ready is like being born prematurely.”

(Via Manchester Evening News)

4. Joan Rivers (Honorary Gay)

Okay Joan Rivers isn’t actually gay, but if anyone is worthy of becoming an honorary gay it’s her, though perhaps we should retract that with her belief that you’re really not going to have a career if you’re openly gay.

“It’s part of the game. If you’re going to be a romantic idol and try to get every teenage girl to love you, then you’d be an ass to come out and say you’re gay. That’s why Ricky Martin was so smart — he did what he did, he made his millions, and then he said, “Guess what, everybody? I’m gay, I’m having this life, and here are my children.” It didn’t matter anymore because he didn’t have to bring in 16-year-old girls. “

(Via The Advocate)

5. Anonymous Gay  TV Producer

John Barrowman claimed in this autobiography “I Am What I Am” that a gay producer told him it would better for him to stay in the closet if he wanted to achieve long term success, asking him:

“John, we wondered if you really wanted to reveal that you’re gay? We think it might change how people feel about you.”

John told him to shut up and that he was proud of his big gay self (well okay he didn’t say it quite like that..)
(Via Pink News)

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